Dear girls,
I realize you are all in your teen years and you don't quite understand the rules of things such as relationships, friendships, family relations but it is time to straighten the hell up.
1) Relationships with boys ----Chances are that at 15 or 16 years old you are not going to marry your current boyfriend. What you think is real love, is not real love. Love isn't based on lying for your bf when he is drunk and wrecks the car with you in it. Just because a boy compliments another girl who looks pretty one day doesn't mean he is "cheating" on you. You want someone to treat you nice, that you can have fun with, trust and have something in common with. Without these your puppy love will not last.
2) Friendships - I swear it seems like girls are even more cattier than when I was a teenager. I had one or two close friends at your age and would have walked over hot coals for them. I trusted that when I told them something, unless it was going to cause physical harm to myself or someone else, that what I told them in confidence would stay there. Today though you girls seem even more hateful towards each other. One day you argue and it is the end of the damn relationship. A true friendship can weather one of you being cranky and moody one day, a true friendship can come bounce back from an argument. It seems like y'all don't realize this. A boy should NEVER be allowed to break the bonds of a true friendship but the right boy should NEVER strain a friendship either. Bickering is almost guaranteed but if you are true friends you can get past it. If you think that you can see yourself friends in 20 yrs then it is up to you build up the foundation to continue strengthening the relationship.
3) Family relations --- Your family will be the people who in the end will be there for you through almost anything and you should begin being that person for them as well. Life isn't always about the drama at school, the drama surrounding friends and boyfriends. There are times when health problems or a crisis will arise and your family will need you to step up and focus your energy on the family and not on outside influences. Don't bring the drama and crap home. The added stress of your drama can bring down the mental health of those who are trying to get better.
The last thing is be your own person. A $70.00 pair of sandals, $100 jeans, $200 jacket should NEVER define who you are. Yor attitude, your character those are things that should define you. BE smart, be talented, be nice, be loving, be strong, be trustworthy, be remembered for who you help, not who you hurt.
Signed,
An Adult Girl
This was written out of frustration, frustration that has been building up all week, well for weeks. One of my daughter's closest friends hasn't spoken to her since right after Spring Break, she and another friend got into an argument earlier in the week and now they aren't speaking, and then came today. Today she calls and says that the friend from earlier in the week and another friend were talking about her today and then tells me that the other friend told her something which my daughter told another friend who then told the BF of the other friend. I was PISSED. I have tried to be that parent who teaches their child to NOT bully, to NOT talk bad about people, to RESPECT people even those her own age and today, I am not sure if it because of the health issues going on with me, but I felt I failed her. I am so ready for school to be over it isn't even funny. I am ready for maturity to set in for all of the girls at her school.
Frustrated Mom
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